Relationships
Relationship Counselling in Surrey
Healthy relationships can bring deep happiness, fulfilment, and a sense of security. When we feel supported and loved, we are more able to grow, take risks, and find meaning in everyday life.
But even the strongest relationships need time, communication, and energy to thrive. When communication breaks down or becomes tangled, people can feel unloved, unwanted, or isolated. Sometimes we don’t know how to resolve these difficulties and may react in ways that unintentionally make things worse.
In other cases, we may find ourselves in relationships that feel unfulfilling, leaving us unsure how to move forward. This is where relationship counselling can help.
Types of Relationship Issues
Relationship counselling can address many challenges. A counsellor will work with you (individually, as a couple, or as a family) to understand the root causes of difficulties and explore ways to move towards healthier, more fulfilling connections.
Couples Counselling
All long-term relationships face moments of conflict. When communication breaks down, partners can feel resentful, angry, or disconnected. Couples counselling offers a neutral and supportive space to identify issues, rebuild communication, and find positive ways to move forward together.
Family Counselling
Family relationships are the foundations of our lives, but they can also become strained. Whether the difficulties stem from one person’s behaviour or long-standing patterns, a family therapist can help restore balance. By providing a safe space where each family member can speak openly and listen to others, counselling supports healing and stronger connections.
Child Counselling
When a child is struggling emotionally or psychologically, it can be distressing for parents. With professional support, children can begin to express their feelings, reduce anxiety, and work through challenges. Child counselling provides a gentle, supportive approach that helps both children and parents navigate difficult times.
How Counselling Can Help
At The Practice in Surrey, our experienced counsellors provide compassionate support for couples, families, and children. We create a safe, non-judgemental space to explore difficulties and build stronger, healthier relationships. Please call 0333 0096 321, fill in our contact form or email us to find a therapist to help.
Useful Articles and Links
Below please find some articles and links you might find helpful.
TED Talk: Helen Fisher: The Brain in Love
Why do we crave love so much, even to the point that we would die for it? To learn more about our very real, very physical need for romantic love, Helen Fisher and her research team took MRIs of people in love -- and people who had just been dumped.
The Most Common Relationship Problems and How Talk Can Help
Relationships can be wonderful—and challenging. We all feel uncertainty or dissatisfaction in our relationships from time to time. Some of the toughest conversations we have are with those we love the most.
TEDTalk: Laura Trice: Remember to say thank you
In this deceptively simple 3-minute talk, Dr. Laura Trice muses on the power of the magic words "thank you" — to deepen a friendship, to repair a bond, to make sure another person knows what they mean to you. Try it.
5 Words You Need to Remember to Make Your Relationship Last
A great relationship doesn’t just happen overnight. They are cultivated over many years and through hardships. They are born out of mutual respect and admiration. People with great relationships have them because each person in the relationship puts their partner’s well-being and happiness above their own. They take the time to learn each other’s needs and wants. They understand that they may give and receive love differently than each other. They respect boundaries that their partner sets out for them. They live their lives together by doing things together and spending time together. They laugh together and at each other. There are five things, five words that encapsulate what it means to have a great relationship with your partner.
Recommended Books
The Way to Love: Meditations for Life
The Way to Love contains some of the most beloved stories from Anthony de Mello.
Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships (Penguin Life)
The bestselling Games People Play is the book that has helped millions of people understand the dynamics of relationships, by psychiatrist Eric Berne
Bad Boyfriends: Using Attachment Theory to Avoid Mr. (or Ms.) Wrong and Make You a Better Partner
This book is a practical guide to using the science of attachment and relationships to find the right life partner by Jeb Kinnison
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love
How our attachment styles learned in childhoold affect our relationships.
Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers
International authority on child development Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D., joins forces with bestselling author Gabor Mate, M.D., to tackle one of the most disturbing trends of our time: Children today looking to their peers for direction their values, identity, and codes of behavior.
The Life Changing Art of Not Giving a F*ck - Sarah Knight
This irreverent and practical book explains how to rid yourself of unwanted obligations, shame, and guilt - and give your f**ks instead to people and things that make you happy.
Poems and Quotes to Inspire You
The Place Where We Are Right - Yehuda Amichai
From the place where we are right
Flowers will never grow
In the spring.
The place where we are right
Is hard and trampled
Like a yard.
But doubts and loves
Dig up the world
Like a mole, a plough.
And a whisper will be heard in the place
Where the ruined
House once stood.
Love is Patient - The Bible: 1 Corinthians 13:4
Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast,
It is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking,
It is not easily angered,
It keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil
But rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts,
Always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails
Helpful articles often written by our fabulous practitioners.